finally, the numbers are starting to look a little bit more manageable. but you see, here is the thing, the numbers simply indicate one more step towards resolution, knowledge, or a decision- if any of that makes sense.
one thing that is important to realize, and for me to recognize is the fact that these 31 days of no contact do not have a known outcome. they can really go one of three ways:
1. blessings can be given and thoughts/feelings can match. what does this look like? well, the first part is pretty obvious: we are given the go-ahead. this too can take two paths (both i believe ending up in the same place.
a. blessing is given based on a personal decision by her father.
b. blessing is given based on the premise that the Lord's will shall be done, and whether or not
confirmation has been given of any kind.
2. both people involved come to a different conclusion about the outcome. although over the last 21 days my original beliefs and feelings have not only remained the same, but grown- it is important to realize that as she and i have not spoken in the last 3 weeks, that she may not be in the same place. although i have a few different hints as to what is running through her head, and cannot be absolutely clear, and therefore have to prepare myself for this outcome, since if she decides to walk away- my discussion with her father is then made irrelevant, null and void.
3. the call is made by her father that his previously stated personal belief stands. in which case the next step is to pursue him further, but will be the case.
now i think it is pretty clear which outcomes i'm hoping for (1,3,2 if you don't know me at all), but i've spent a lot of time on here explaining what could happen, without spending much time describing what my thoughts are....
"We can stop pleading with God to show us the future, & start living & obeying like we are confident that He holds the future." - Kevin DeYoung
for me, i believe that this quote from his book "just do something" is pretty clear in its meaning. Just do something. "Love God, do as you please." - St. Augustine
now i understand that these quotes can come across as pretty pretty new agey, but if you evaluate them, are they really? lets compare potential mates to something else for a second. cars for example. a car is a pretty important decision, as it affects not only your financial situation, but your well being, and also your ability to do certain things.
when you set out to purchase a vehicle, you look for certain criteria. you know you need 7 seats. you want it to be safe. you want leather, heated seats, bluetooth, navigation, reliability, and you want this car to be blue and cost less than $10,000. now, in this particular scenario, you find three vehicles with all of those particular features and cost. in fact, all three vehicles are the EXACT same in specifications. they all cost the same. they all have the same features. they look a little bit different, but every single thing you were looking for is there, and no particular one has more features than another. so which one does the Lord want you to pick?
now this is where a lot of people would answer "well, i'd have to pray about it first." granted, i agree with that. i believe that the Lord often shows us an answer through one scenario being different or more favorable than another. but we have already established that every single one of the vehicles is the same. so what do you do? stare at one of them until the right one speaks?
No.
you pick one.
you know that all three of them would in a technical sense be "God honoring" (not choosing a sports car that would leave you unable to help with the kids, keep the safe, or bleed your bank account dry [choosing to be responsible with the money the Lord has held you responsible for])
you make a decision.
"Love God, and do as you please."
Now if God has not clearly stated that one particular person is wrong for you. what do you do?
if you have established that the relationship is mature, God honoring, beneficial, and challenges you both to grow, make a decision.
go for it. take a step.
my step? i'm completely in love with the girl. not a doubt in my mind. i know the relationship is mature, God honoring, beneficial, and challenges us both to grow.
so, i'm all in. on september 9th, Lord willing, i'll know for sure whether she is as well.
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